SABAR and...SMILE... :)

"Ijan, don't you get angry?"...I've been asked this countless times. Are you kidding? I'm no angel...OF COURSE  I get angry!! It's just that I don't allow my anger to get the better of me...well...most times. I've learnt to let it flow through me...and to let it go. My secret? hmmm....

1.  I don't take it personally. Everyone's entitled to their opinion. Much as I feel like puking at some of these opinions, I take a passive stand. For as long as it's me and only me these opinions are directed at, I'm okay. Try talking bad about my mum and you'd probably make me a murderer!
2.  I ask myself this question, "will this be important on my deathbed?". Most times the answer is "NO"...so I let it pass.
3.  It takes all kinds to make this world...and not everyone uses their mental faculties as well as their mouths. I'm okay with idiots for as long as I don't have to be joined at the hips with them.
4.  I can't "tutup mulut orang". So I "tutup telinga" I. Easy!
5.  I have good, functioning legs...I walk away.
6.  Istighfar banyak-banyak. This really helps.
7.  I smile...and smile...and smile. It's kinda difficult to be angry when you're smiling.
8.  When I'm in a cheeky mood, I'll act the researcher that I am and ask the person to explain in detail every little bit he said about me. That normally shuts him up pretty quick. I'm always grateful for my corporate planning training at these times.
9.  I don't care much about "winning" an argument.

That's it! My secret's out... :)

A NEW YEAR...

      I've never been good at making new year's resolutions. Maybe because I know I won't be good at keeping them. And I hate not being able to keep promises. Especially when I know I made them to myself...I gave my word and what good would those words be if I don't keep them. So I always figured it would be best not to make any commitments for the new year.
     But it's different this year. Weeks prior to the year end, I was bombarded with thoughts. I suddenly had lots to talk about...with hers truly. "Talking to myself and feeling old" as the song goes...reflecting...being talked to...reflecting again...asking...talked to myself even more.
     And yea...I ended up making resolutions...I took tiny baby steps toward keeping them...well before new year's eve...I figured I needed a lot of practice since I've never had new year's resolutions before...what better time to start if not immediately.
      Wish me well please...I'll need lots of your "doa"...A better and more enlightening 2012 to all.....  :)

"CIVIL WAR"

Look at your young men fighting

Look at your women crying

Look at your young men dying

The way they've always done before

Look at the hate we're breeding

Look at the fear we're feeding

Look at the lives we're leading

The way we've always done before

Look at the shoes you’re  filling

Look at the blood we're spilling

Look at the world we're killing

The way we've always done before

Look in the doubt we've wallowed

Look at the leaders we've followed

Look at the lies we've swallowed

And I don't want to hear no more………

[ GUNS & ROSES ]

MELAYU

     I was looking for info in the internet when I came across a couple of blogs written in BM. Nothing wrong with the language of the authors. But the language used by the those who commented was something else! And this coming from Malays - a people who is supposedly "berbudi bahasa, bersopan santun tinggi". Who, according to Usman Awang in his poem "Melayu", 

Melayu itu orang yang bijaksana

Nakalnya bersulam jenaka

Budi bahasanya tidak terkira

Kurang ajarnya tetap santun

Jika menipu pun masih bersopan

Bila mengampu bijak beralas tangan

    Apa dah jadi dengan ramai Melayu sekarang?? Budi bahasa, sopan santun ditolak tepi bila tak bersependapat. "Aku caci kau...kau caci aku" macam dah jadi lumrah. Macam dah tak reti nak berdialog tanpa menghina, merendahkan, mengaibkan mereka yang bercanggah pendapatnya dari kita. Tak boleh sangat berdebat tanpa "getting personal". 


    Bijaksanakah kita ni? Dah tak cukup sangat ke perkataan yang elok2 dalam bahasa Melayu kita sampai kita terpaksa menggunakan perkataan2 yang "seram, meremang bulu roma" bila didengar dibaca? Dimana ciri "Kurang ajarnya tetap santun"??


   Di negara kita ni Melayu tu sinonim dengan Islam. Lagi haru bila ini diambil kira...... 

my TAGGED friends...

       Kamu

       familiku

       di alam maya

       tiada

       darah keluarga

       namun

       tetap mesra

       bersaudara…..

      

TAK PERLU KITA MENJADI KHALIFAH

Bila wanita ingin

menjadi khalifah

maka timbullah sifat-sifat “keras”…

keras bicaranya, adabnya…

keras hatinya, jiwanya…

Mana mungkin kita

menakluki hati manusia

bila sebegini rupa?

Mana mampu kita menjadi lelaki

ciri mutlak untuk “khalifah”

Walaupun kita Islamnya teguh

walau beriman dan bertaqwa

walau mentadbir dengan sempurna

walau tiada cacat celanya jasad, hati dan jiwa

walau akalnya, hatinya, jiwanya

SATU!

Wanita…

dijadikan “ibu”

semulia-mulia manusia

Wajib ditaati selepas Allah

Yang makamnya sebelum bapa

INILAH darjat wanita!

yang ditaati sang khalifah

tanpa perlu kita menjadiNYA…

Kita sudah dijadikan

begitu kuat

dalam “kelembutan”

Apa perlu kuasa dunia?

bila syurga di bawah tapak kaki kita

yang bernaung sang khalifah

mencari redha…

TIDAK PERLU MENJADI KHALIFAH!

TQ ya Allah... :)

TQ ya Allah for...

*the gift of life you have given me

*giving me everything I have ever truly needed

*the opportunity to experience this beautiful body & this wonderful mind

*living inside me with all your love, with your pure & boundless spirit, with your warm & radiant light

TQ for using my words, for using my eyes, for using my heart to share your love wherever I go. I love you just the way you are, & because I am your creation, I love myself just the way I am.

Help me to keep the love & peace in my heart & to make that love a new way of life, that I may live in love the rest of my life.

AMEN...